Welcome to season three of Insights From The Couch! We are kicking off 2025 with an inspiring discussion about creating real, meaningful change as we step into the New Year. Should you set resolutions or focus on intentions? Is there a "right" way to build habits? In this episode, we unpack the science of habit formation, the power of identity-based goals, and what it means to take radical responsibility for your life. You'll hear practical advice, motivational stories, and strategies to keep you inspired long after January ends.Join us as we explore how tiny, incremental changes can lead to monumental shifts in your life and why embracing both discipline and self-compassion is key to achieving your goals. Whether you're looking to tackle fitness, finances, or personal growth, this episode will leave you ready to take action—one small step at a time. Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Introducing season three and the concept of meaningful New Year’s change. [2:34] - Exploring SMART goals vs. wildly improbable goals and why you need both vision and incremental action. [6:24] - The science of habit formation: Atomic Habits, tiny habits, and why small changes matter. [10:53] - Radical responsibility: owning your life and choices, and why this is the foundation for change. [16:17] - Reading “The Risks of Autonomy” and reflecting on its powerful message of personal accountability. [23:11] - Personal stories of significant life changes, from quitting smoking to overcoming financial struggles. [36:22] - The importance of discipline and consistency in creating lasting habits. [43:19] - Starting small: how a 2-minute habit can transform your life. [52:40] - Doubling down on your strengths and why change isn’t just about fixing weaknesses. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

The holidays can be stressful, but what if we shifted our focus to finding the little joys in life? In our final mini-episode of the season, we explore how to chase, find, and savor those joyful nuggets that make life sweeter—whether it's a perfectly brewed cup of coffee, a warm hug, or a deep connection with someone you love. Join us for an honest, playful, and heartwarming conversation about creating more joy, even when life feels heavy.Episode Highlights:  [1:43] - Why it’s hard for some to find joy and how intentionality changes everything.  [2:31] - How small sensory pleasures like coffee, hot showers, and morning runs keep Laura grounded and joyful.  [5:21] - The power of meaningful relationships, deep conversations, and shared moments of vulnerability.  [10:09] - The importance of letting loose, embracing fun, and finding freedom in the little things.  [12:47] - How mindfulness, humor, and gratitude transform the mundane into magic.  [19:42] - A simple tool for keeping perspective and reducing frustration when life gets stressful.  [21:23] - A reminder to live true to yourself and prioritize what really matters.  Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Stay tuned—Season 3 launches on January 8, 2025!

The holiday season is here, and with it comes a whirlwind of emotions, from joy to exhaustion. In this episode, we share our personal takes on navigating holiday stress, family dynamics, and the pressure to meet societal expectations. Fresh off our podcast trip to Delray Beach, Florida, we reflect on the importance of bite-sized joy, balancing traditions, and the struggles of managing festive obligations. If you're feeling the weight of the season, this conversation will resonate deeply. Join us as we unpack everything from decorating woes to finding gratitude amidst the chaos.Expect laughter, honest moments, and practical tips to help you find peace and joy during the holidays. This episode is your guide to a more mindful and intentional season. Episode Highlights:[0:03] - Reminiscing about our recent podcast trip to Delray Beach.[3:13] - Holiday decorating dilemmas: Why putting up ornaments feels more like a chore this year.[7:09] - The pressures of "forced joy" during the holidays and longing for a reset.[16:04] - Dreaming of an ideal holiday getaway: Exploring the balance between relaxation and adventure.[27:07] - Alternate career dreams: From museum curator to Dateline investigator.[35:10] - Exploring societal anger and the intriguing case of the UnitedHealthcare CEO murder.[40:13] - How gratitude practices and "brain rot" TV marathons can coexist during the holidays. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

We’re back with a special holiday-themed minisode series! While today’s conversation isn’t centered on the holidays, we dive into meaningful topics that will resonate with anyone navigating midlife, health, and self-care. This week, we reflect on gratitude, personal growth, and takeaways from an incredible women’s health summit we attended. Whether it’s about dealing with holiday stress or embracing life’s challenges, we’re here to share insights and invite your questions. Plus, don’t miss our discussion on perimenopause, menopause, and why understanding your health is the ultimate gift to yourself.Episode Highlights[0:59] - Colette and Laura share their Thanksgiving recaps and the art of embracing rejection.  [5:00] - How visualization and positive thinking can guide personal growth and resilience.  [10:43] - Key takeaways from the Women’s Health Summit: the truth about menopause, hormone therapy, and why muscle mass matters.  [15:30] - The risks of ignoring perimenopause and why women’s health research is so vital.  [21:40] - Building better fitness habits: heavy lifting, brisk walking, and redefining self-care.  [26:55] - How mindset can make midlife the most vibrant chapter of your life.  For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

The holiday season is here, and with it comes joy, challenges, and plenty of stress. In this special episode we tackle the big issues that make the holidays overwhelming—from managing expectations and setting boundaries to dealing with financial stress and navigating family dynamics. We share our candid personal stories and practical strategies to help you stay grounded, embrace self-care, and survive (or even thrive!) this holiday season.  Episode Highlights:[2:45] – Stressful moments as parents during the holidays: when the magic of Christmas becomes all work.[4:12] – Colette shares her story of a solo Christmas and the importance of reframing loneliness.[7:08] – Why opting out of traditional holiday expectations can be liberating.[9:16] – Handling family dynamics and setting boundaries for visits.[14:47] – Letting go of people-pleasing and prioritizing your own well-being.[20:47] – Parenting through the holidays: supporting grown kids without guilt or pressure.[24:13] – Navigating tricky family conversations around politics and other hot-button issues.[28:03] – How to balance indulgence with self-care during the holiday season. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we’re thrilled to sit down with the amazing Jen Bisbee, Executive Producer of the upcoming documentary “What Hugh Knew” and owner of the renowned PR firm, Bisbee and Co. Jen shares her journey of discovering the profound importance of human connection, both through her film and personal experiences. We dive into how technology has shifted our relationships, especially for teens, and explore the balance between the digital and real world. Plus, we get an inside look at the inspiration behind her powerful documentary, which has been 40 years in the making and celebrates community, friendship, and living life authentically offline. Trust us, you’ll want to hear Jen’s insights on how to reconnect in today’s tech-obsessed world.If you’ve ever felt the tug between staying connected online and nurturing real-life relationships, this episode will speak to you. Jen offers thoughtful tips on digital wellness and shares stories that remind us all of the joy that comes from simply being together. Whether you’re raising teens in the social media age or just seeking more balance in your life, this conversation will inspire you to rethink how you connect. Episode Highlights:[00:00] - Introduction: Welcoming Jen Bisbee and the story behind her journey into filmmaking and PR.[1:43] - What “What Hugh Knew” is all about: Exploring human connection, friendship, and balance in the digital age.[5:25] - The lasting power of traditions: Celebrating 40 years of the Hugh Shaw Memorial Surf Classic.[7:27] - How technology is impacting teens: Jen shares alarming statistics about social media use and mental health in teens.[11:12] - Finding balance: The importance of digital wellness and setting boundaries with technology.[17:36] - Practical tips for reconnecting offline: Jen offers suggestions for disconnecting and finding real-life moments of joy.[25:14] - The impact of polarized media: How technology has shifted the way we consume news and connect with different viewpoints.[35:19] - The heart of What Hugh Knew: Jen reflects on the film’s central message about community and human connection. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Hey, everyone! Welcome back to another episode of Insights from the Couch! We are thrilled to have the incredible Jacqueline Whitmore with us today. Jacqueline is America’s foremost etiquette expert, author, and certified speaking professional. In this episode, we explore the importance of professional presence, intentionality in your career, and how to navigate pivotal transitions. Jacqueline shares her journey from hospitality marketing to becoming a leading voice in etiquette, offering valuable insights on building confidence, developing your personal brand, and mastering the art of making others feel comfortable. Tune in for a conversation that is as enlightening as it is empowering! Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Welcome and introduction of guest Jacqueline Whitmore, etiquette expert and author. [1:11] - Professional success must be intentional. Jacqueline shares why. [3:50] - The importance of planning and setting goals, especially for women moving into leadership roles. [5:48] - Defining etiquette and why it’s about making others feel comfortable, not just manners. [8:10] - Transitioning careers and how to take those first steps, including finding a mentor and continuing education. [12:01] - Building confidence through trial and error, and why failure doesn’t define you. [16:00] - The challenges women face with confidence, especially in high-paying jobs and leadership roles. [19:24] - Communicating assertively while staying poised and maintaining professionalism. [25:12] - How to control your emotions in high-pressure situations and become a respected leader. [30:12] - Breaking out of your comfort zone: Why you need to challenge yourself to grow. [31:20] - Acknowledging the importance of mentorship and relationship-building in your career. [34:49] - Networking tips: How introverts and ambiverts can excel at making meaningful connections. [38:38] - Final reflections on living "above the line" with intentionality in your professional life. Resources:Jacqueline Whitmore’s website: https://etiquetteexpert.com/ For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we are back with Vanessa Reiser for part two of our deep dive into narcissistic abuse. We continue unpacking the signs, behaviors, and long-term effects of dealing with narcissists, including the devastating post-separation abuse that often follows the end of these toxic relationships. Vanessa explains key terms like gaslighting, hoovering, and supply, providing listeners with practical tips on how to recognize and protect themselves from narcissistic behaviors.Vanessa also offers valuable insight into what recovery looks like—how to escape, heal, and rebuild your life after enduring this form of psychological manipulation. If you’ve ever struggled in a relationship with a narcissist or suspect someone in your life might be manipulating you, this episode is a must-listen. You’ll walk away feeling empowered and ready to reclaim your life. Episode Highlights:[1:39] - Understanding key terms like gaslighting, hoovering, and narcissistic supply.[6:00] - What is hoovering? Why narcissists come back, and how to protect yourself.[7:45] - What happens when you cause "narcissistic injury"? The risks of confronting a narcissist.[10:40] - Can you neutralize a narcissist in a relationship if you can’t leave? Practical advice.[12:01] - How to safely get out of a relationship with a narcissist: Tips for planning your exit.[14:01] - Minimizing contact and communication with a narcissist when planning to leave.[19:29] - Encouraging your children to think independently to avoid narcissistic relationships.[21:42] - First steps in emotional healing after leaving a narcissist.[24:13] - Finding the right therapist or coach for support and how to protect yourself legally. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this episode of Insights from the Couch, we dive into the complex world of narcissistic abuse with the incredible Vanessa Reiser, a licensed clinical social worker specializing in narcissistic and cult abuse. Together, we explore what it’s really like to experience this insidious form of domestic violence, how to identify narcissistic behaviors early on, and the warning signs that often go unnoticed until it’s too late. Vanessa shares her personal story of surviving narcissistic abuse, shedding light on the psychological manipulation that victims face and the steps they can take to heal and escape.This episode is packed with insights on understanding narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), the difference between someone acting narcissistically versus having NPD, and the trauma bonds that make it so difficult for victims to break free. Whether you're dealing with a narcissist in your life or just curious about the subject, this episode will open your eyes to the tactics used by these master manipulators and the hope that lies in recovery. Episode Highlights:[3:10] - Vanessa’s personal journey: From working in the Bronx to becoming an advocate for domestic violence survivors.[6:10] - What is narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and how does it differ from narcissistic behavior?[9:22] - Red flags to watch for in a relationship: Love bombing, superficial charm, and fast-moving affection.[12:46] - How long can a narcissist hold their mask before revealing their true self?[15:33] - The dangerous cycle of abuse and why victims struggle to leave.[18:25] - The role of intermittent reinforcement and how victims become addicted to the narcissist’s approval.[22:16] - The biological and psychological factors that drive narcissistic behavior. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this eye-opening episode, we sit down with author and journalist Melissa Petro, whose new book, Shame on You: How to Be a Woman in the Age of Mortification, delves into the complex world of shame and societal judgment. Melissa brings her unique perspective, shaped by her own experiences in the sex trade and as a mother, to explore how shame affects women in both public and private spheres. We get into how women are often burdened with shame from a young age, and Melissa shares how she’s navigated the harsh terrain of public shaming, including a scandal that nearly ended her career. She also offers practical insights on developing "shame resilience" and creating safe spaces for healing.We unpack everything from body image and motherhood to the cultural narratives that reinforce shame. Whether you’ve struggled with feelings of inadequacy or have felt judged for choices in your personal life, this episode offers a thoughtful and compassionate look at how we can break free from societal expectations and find strength in our authentic selves. Tune in to explore Melissa’s journey and find out how we can all cultivate resilience against shame! Episode Highlights:[0:04] - Meet Melissa Petro: author, journalist, and advocate for women navigating shame and public scrutiny.[1:38] - The inspiration behind Shame on You and Melissa's personal journey from public scandal to resilience.[3:52] - The societal pressures on women around body image and motherhood, and how shame is often weaponized.[8:57] - Navigating the double bind of using sexuality as power while dealing with the shame that follows.[17:14] - The impact of mass media shaming and how Melissa coped with being in the public eye.[26:07] - Exploring the concept of "shame resilience" and why finding safe spaces is crucial for healing.[32:17] - Melissa’s insights on body acceptance and how to challenge internalized shame in today’s culture.[37:15] - The power of empathy and connecting with others as a path to overcoming shame. Links and Resources:Melissa Petro’s Book: Shame on You: How to Be a Woman in the Age of MortificationMelissa’s recent article in Time Magazine: Read Here For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this follow-up to last week’s conversation on the emotional lives of men, we bring you a special “Men Tell All” episode with guests Josh Mora and Dennis Williams. Josh and Dennis, hosts of The Back 9 podcast, open up about what it’s really like for men navigating relationships, dating, and personal growth in midlife. We get candid about the challenges and rewards of dating after divorce, the importance of male friendships, and how men process emotions in ways you might not expect. You’ll hear honest takes on vulnerability, authenticity, and setting boundaries, plus some surprising insights into male sexuality and relationship expectations at this stage of life. Tune in to hear what men wish women knew, explore why male friendships are essential, and discuss the ups and downs of midlife dating.  Episode Highlights:[0:04] - We introduce Josh Mora and Dennis Williams, hosts of The Back 9 podcast.[1:08] - Josh and Dennis share their experiences dating after long marriages.[3:37] - The importance of self-confidence and setting boundaries in new relationships.[7:00] - What men really value in a partner: authenticity and direct communication.[15:21] - Talking about male sexuality and how it changes (or doesn’t) in midlife.[20:01] - Josh and Dennis discuss dating age preferences and how they’ve evolved.[25:24] - Why male friendships matter and how they’ve maintained theirs for decades.[32:36] - Wrapping up with reflections on healing, growth, and moving past resentment. Resources:The Back 9 Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-back-9/id1717609674  For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Welcome back to another insightful episode of "Insights from the Couch: Mental Health at Midlife." Today, we’re diving deep into a topic that’s both complex and essential—the emotional lives of men. We often hear that men are the strong, silent types, but what’s really going on beneath that composed exterior? How do societal expectations and upbringing shape men’s emotional expressions? We explore these questions and more, offering a compassionate look at the vulnerabilities men face and how they navigate their emotional landscapes.In this episode, we discuss the common challenges men encounter when trying to express their feelings, the impact of societal norms, and the crucial role partners play in fostering a supportive environment for emotional openness.  Episode Highlights:[00:37] - The Duck Analogy: smooth surface and frantic kicking below.[04:06] - The Three F's: Feed, F**k, Flatter—simplified emotional needs.[06:10] - The Bad Partner Communication Report Card: defensiveness, dismissiveness, distancing, and fixing.[07:40] - The Challenge of Vulnerability: men’s emotional conditioning.[09:11] - Societal Expectations: how culture shapes male emotional expression.[15:35] - Coping Mechanisms: alcohol, workaholism, and disconnection.[19:58] - Emotional Connection: the role of partners in men's emotional lives.[23:51] - Practical Tips: inviting vulnerability without forcing it.[30:04] - Pursuer-Withdrawer Dynamic: understanding relationship patterns.[37:14] - Creating Emotional Safety: steps for building a supportive environment. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this deeply moving episode of Insights from the Couch, we sit down with Simona Lazinsk, a powerhouse of resilience and grace. Simona shares her incredible journey from overcoming unimaginable loss and trauma to becoming a best-selling author and Mrs. Florida International 2023. Through her powerful story, we explore themes of survival, healing, and how to take control of your life even when it seems like everything is falling apart. This episode is a testament to the human spirit and is filled with inspiration for anyone who's ever felt lost or broken. Trust us, you’ll want to hear Simona’s journey and the wisdom she’s gained along the way. Episode Highlights:[3:09] - Discussing the harsh realities of living in a new country and the impact of her father's descent into alcoholism.[8:14] - The emotional and financial stress that weighed heavily on her family and how it affected Simona as a young girl.[10:56] - A powerful reflection on how emotions were handled (or not) in her family, with a memorable quote from The Simpsons.[14:27] - Simona's mother’s battle with pancreatic cancer and how it shaped Simona’s perspective on life and health.[23:19] - How Simona coped with the compounded losses of both her parents and her sister within a short period.[31:11] - Turning point: How a breast cancer diagnosis became the catalyst for Simona to take radical responsibility for her life.[39:06] - The birth of the Bridge Method: Simona explains the steps she took to rebuild her life and how you can do the same.[56:44] - The importance of enjoying life and making every moment count, no matter what challenges come your way. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this episode, we are thrilled to welcome the incredible Dr. Vonda Wright, a double board-certified orthopedic sports surgeon who specializes in working with athletes and active individuals. Dr. Wright shares her passion for empowering women, especially as they navigate perimenopause and menopause. We explore everything from hormone health to the importance of lifting weights, brain health, and how to thrive through midlife.Dr. Wright shares eye-opening insights about how estrogen impacts our bodies, the importance of understanding our hormonal changes, and the power of weight training to maintain bone density and overall health. We also chat about the societal pressures on women and how we can shift our mindset to not just survive but thrive during midlife. Trust us, you’re going to walk away with practical tips and tons of motivation to embrace this next phase of life. Episode Highlights:[0:01] - Introduction to Dr. Vonda Wright and her unique expertise in women's health.[1:12] - Dr. Wright discusses her approach to treating the whole person.[5:26] - Midlife health journeys, hormonal changes, and challenges.[10:47] - Dr. Wright breaks down the biological changes that happen in midlife and the importance of menopause literacy.[17:59] - How hormone therapy can impact your long-term health and well-being.[21:26] - The crucial role of weight training in midlife and why it’s a game-changer for women.[27:01] - Dr. Wright’s perspective on alcohol in midlife: what the science really says.[30:20] - Laura asks about the impact of running on joint health—Dr. Wright’s expert answer might surprise you![33:51] - Information about the upcoming Women’s Health Conversation Summit and how to join. We will be there! Resources:Dr. Vonda Wright’s website: https://www.speaker.drvondawright.com/ My Alloy: https://www.myalloy.com – Online menopause careMIDI Health: https://www.joinmidi.com – Menopause care platformOpt Health: OptHealth.com – Personalized menopause and hormone careWomen’s Health Conversations Summit (November 8-9, 2024, Lake Nona, FL): https://www.drvondawright.net/summit2024  For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this empowering episode of Insights from the Couch, we continue our deep dive into women’s sexuality with the incredible Dr. Laurie Watson. Together, we tackle the complexities of sexual desire, intimacy, and pleasure as women navigate through midlife and beyond. Dr. Laurie shares her wisdom on how to maintain a vibrant sex life despite the challenges of menopause, societal pressures, and the inevitable changes in our bodies. Whether you’re in the midst of these changes or simply curious about what lies ahead, this conversation is packed with actionable insights that will leave you feeling inspired and more connected to your own erotic self. Episode Highlights:[00:18] - How virgins can ensure a positive first experience.[01:17] - Reflecting on the challenges of staying embodied during intimacy.[02:41] - Laurie explains why clitoral stimulation is key to most women’s orgasms.[04:59] - Addressing the impact of menopause on sexual desire.[11:22] - Colette questions whether men really crave variety.[15:07] - Laurie debunks myths about menopause and sexuality.[19:34] - The importance of developing an “erotic core” and how it can transform your sexual experience at any age.[22:16] - Laurie shares how post-menopause sex can be the best of your life and invites listeners to her upcoming women’s retreat. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Hey everyone! In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most layered and intriguing topics: women’s sexuality at midlife. We’re joined by the incredible Dr. Lori Watson, a renowned sexologist and couples therapist, who brings her extensive expertise to help us unpack the complexities of sex and desire as we age. From dealing with low libido and the pressures of long-term relationships to navigating the challenges of erectile dysfunction and emotional disconnection, we explore it all. Whether you're grappling with the changes that come with midlife or looking to keep the spark alive in your relationship, this episode is packed with insights that you won’t want to miss! Episode Highlights:[01:24] - Colette and Laura introduce Dr. Watson and set the stage for a deep dive into midlife sexuality.[03:02] - Exploring the common struggles of low desire in long-term relationships and the impact on self-esteem.[05:46] - Discussion on the expectations and realities of sex frequency in marriage, touching on the societal norms and pressures.[10:00] - Addressing the emotional and physical factors that affect sexual desire, including stress, body image, and the bristle effect.[17:33] - Dr. Watson discusses what’s “normal” for sex in long-term marriages and how to maintain an erotic connection over the years.[20:58] - Insight into how couples can tackle the issue of a partner losing sexual interest and the underlying causes like health issues and emotional withdrawal.[36:43] - Understanding the life force of sexuality and how to reconnect with your own sensuality and desire for a fulfilling sex life. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this heartfelt episode of Insights from the Couch, we’re diving into a topic that hits home for so many of us—coping with the empty nest. We get real about the grief, the unexpected feelings, and how to move from sadness to embracing this new chapter in life.Join us as we share our own experiences of adjusting to an empty nest, the challenges that come with it, and the surprising positives that can emerge from this life phase. If you’re feeling lost, uncertain, or just a bit overwhelmed by the quiet, this episode is for you. Let’s navigate this journey together and find ways to make this time not just manageable, but truly fulfilling. Episode Highlights:[1:45] - Colette shares her summer of truly empty nesting, with both daughters away. [3:21] - The three stages of the empty nest: Grief, Relief, and Joy. [5:39] - The isolation of the empty nest and finding ways to fill the newfound free time.[11:47] - Moving from grief to joy: Embracing the new reality.[14:44] - The importance of allowing space for sadness.[19:45] - The impact of enmeshment and control.[27:36] - The freedom and personal development opportunities.[30:55] - How to navigate the empty nest with grace. Resources:For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

Are you just going through the motions, stuck in a mental rut? Or are you truly living with vitality, curiosity and psychological flexibility? In this insightful episode, we're discussing the core signifiers of authentic mental wellness. You'll gain perspective on whether you're just surviving or actually thriving psychologically and emotionally. Get ready to assess your own mental health in a holistic way!Episode Highlights:[3:35] - Psychological flexibility: Holding two truths. [9:46] - Allowing the full range of emotions. [14:39] - Knowing yourself: Beliefs, apologies, asking for help. [21:07] - Struggle with gifts and receiving appreciation. [23:04] - Being curious, open and engaged.[25:04] - Taking action to shift mental state.[29:57] - Small interactions spark big mindset shifts.Resources:For more on this topic visit our website at insightsfromthecouch.org.If you have questions, please email us at info@insightsfrothecouch.org. We would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In this episode, we are joined by Abbe Barclay, a seasoned Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. With over 30 years of experience, Abbe offers invaluable insights into the complex world of sexual addiction. We discuss the nuances of sex addiction, its impact on relationships, and effective paths to recovery. Whether you're personally affected or simply curious about the subject, this episode sheds light on a topic often shrouded in misunderstanding and stigma.Episode Highlights:[1:32] - Colette shares her personal connection to the topic.[3:47] - Abbe explains how she started working with sex addiction.[4:21] - Debunking common misconceptions about sex addiction.[5:52] - The psychological underpinnings of sex addiction.[7:42] - The cycle of addiction: preoccupation, ritual, acting out, and despair.[10:07] - Key signs and symptoms to look for in a sex addict.[12:57] - The importance of addressing underlying emotional and psychological issues.[18:36] - Differences in how sex addiction presents in men and women.[22:19] - The role of denial and the importance of trained therapists.[23:24] - The healing process: what it takes to recover.[25:13] - Resources and books recommended by Abbe for further education.[32:49] - Final thoughts on seeking appropriate help and setting boundaries.Resources:Abbe Barclay's private practice: Clarity Counseling CenterRecommended Reading: Sex Addiction 101 by Robert WeissMending a Shattered Heart by Stefanie CarnesCourageous Love: A Guide for Couples Conquering Betrayal by Stefanie CarnesScreening tests: Sexhelp.comFind a certified therapist: IITAPSeeking Integrity: https://seekingintegrity.com/ For more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here’s to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

In today’s episode, we dive into a topic that hits close to home for many of us – overparenting. Are you the kind of parent who tends to hover, or maybe even bulldoze obstacles out of your child’s way? Join us as we discuss the various forms overparenting can take, its root causes, and most importantly, how it impacts the mental and emotional well-being of our kids. We share personal anecdotes, clinical insights, and practical advice to help you strike the right balance between being supportive and overbearing.We also explore the broader implications of overparenting on societal norms and individual development, touching on how this trend affects not just kids but entire family dynamics. If you’ve ever found yourself questioning your parenting style or the cultural pressures driving you to be overly involved, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in and discover how to foster independence and resilience in your children without stepping over the line. Episode Highlights:[1:04] - Discussing the prevalence of overparenting and its impact on mental health.[2:19] - Different forms of overparenting and their origins in fear and protectiveness.[3:34] - The impact of special needs on parenting styles and the unique challenges it presents.[5:02] - Modern societal fears and their contribution to overparenting.[6:36] - Real-life examples of extreme overparenting and its consequences.[9:11] - The concept of "lawn mower parenting" and why it's detrimental.[11:02] - Enmeshment and the importance of allowing children to develop their own identities.[12:58] - Personal stories of the struggles and benefits of letting children face challenges.[16:55] - The importance of failure in learning and development.[18:06] - Balancing support with independence, especially for young adults.[19:27] - Strategies for parents to avoid overparenting and promote resilience.[21:45] - Addressing social pressures and the fear of judgment from others.[23:52] - Encouragement for parents to give their children space and the benefits it brings.[24:58] - The importance of frustration tolerance and resilience in children.[26:42] - Final thoughts on being supportive without overparenting. Resources:Dr. Becky Kennedy’s Book: Good Inside and Podcast: Good InsideDr. Shefali Tsabary’s Book: The Conscious ParentDr. Daniel Amen’s Book: Raising Mentally Strong KidsFor more on this topic visit our website insightsfromthecouch.org If you have questions please email us at info@insightsfromthecouch.org we would love to hear from you!If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue